Discuss Life

How often do we have those "Why?" days? So many of us experience them; those days we question everything, and inevitably it is always from a negative perspective. "Why did this happen to me", "why is it always me that...", "how come that never happens to/for me", "it is always my..... is it never their/them…..", "why always my family...", and many more that I am sure we have either used or heard.  Isn't it interesting that our default mode is in the negative, rather than the positive.. I have never heard anyone complain, that their family is always the one that succeeds, or they are always the one to get the promotion, or even they wish they had less.. etc..  Even those who have more than many of us will ever have, such as, Sam Smith; who has fame, fortune, big house with grounds, a pool etc.. He still complained during #lockdown . It is almost as we always want more, or better, or greater etc..  However, I wonder if Tru

In this modern world of Self, individualism, self isolation, selfies, and #selflove etc, are there any differences?  I propose that there are.  Many individuals on Twitter for example, will frequently post about #selflove .  But what does that mean? Is it a term for giving oneself love, telling oneself "I am beautiful" "I am worthy" " I am loved..." "I am strong.." or any of the many other mantras people will use.  Is it taking a glam selfie, with or without the filters, the running a candlelit bath, that quiet walk alone out of the home office, away from the partner or kids etc..….  Or is self love, in reality a glib phrase used to help us just feel a bit better in the moment?  On the other hand, what about loving oneself?  Is it just semantics really? Some lesser educated individuals would say that  they are one in the same, and that self love is the same as loving oneself, and we are just splitting hairs or playing with semantics.  Howe

Who weeps alone? It is not uncommon for individuals who loose a loved one, or even not so loved, on occasions to shed the private tears.  However, many people are inclined to keep a "stiff upper lip" put on the brave face and carry on with Life.  Having dealt with death for many years as a healthcare professional seeing and dealing with it first hand, supporting families and fellow colleagues at a difficult and painful time. I also had the difficult challenge myself, emotionally, physically, spiritually and psychologically over the last couple of years of living with and caring for my father-in-law.  He lived with dementia, lung disease and frailty. Unfortunately he died on the 1st of January this year, whilst at home after an acute infection and rapid deterioration. We had the privilege to care for him at home during his last days and again I was privileged to be holding his hand at his bed side when he died. Even though he was my father-in-law and could be a challengi